Sunday, November 17, 2013

Motivational Monday #2: Unplugging (with link-up)

My name is Becky and I am addicted to technology.

There, I said it.  I am a victim of the "always plugged in" society.  The thought of an entire day without the Internet gives me the shakes.  

It wasn't always this way though.  Like all of you, I remember where I was on 09/11/01.  I was sitting in class at the beginning of my sophomore year of college.  The class was from 9:10 - 11:00 and I therefore did not hear about the events of 9/11 until around 11:15 that morning.  No joke.

I know, it's insane, right?!  When I think of it now, I can't even remember that of society,  I had a cell phone, as did probably most the students in the room, but apparently no one, not one of the 20+ kids in the room, kept theirs on.  Get that...we turned off our cell phones!  Gasp!

Now, I can't even imagine going somewhere without my cell phone.  My cell phone that, as of 3 years ago, has full Internet access.  Even more than that, I cannot fathom turning off my phone at any time, not even to sleep.  How would I wake up without my phone alarm?!

While I love technology and the Internet, I don't like some of the things that it has done to me.  For instance, I can no longer have down time.  It is like I have technology ADD.

And it is not just me.  Look around.  People can no longer just "do nothing" while waiting in line or sitting in a waiting room.  They are surfing the Internet on their phones.  People can no longer drive without talking on the phone.  As soon as we ("we" being the collective "we") wake up the morning, we immediately grab our phones.  God Forbid we missed something in the 7 hours that we were sleeping.  

It is crazy.  

This morning, I looked at the monitor and saw my sweet, sweet Moose laying there, eyes wide open, staring at the ceiling, and contentedly twirling her hair.  I was instantaneously both envious and in awe.  In that moment, it struck me that technology has taken that peacefulness away from all of us.  

Think about it, kids can just sit around and play for hours.  They can lay in bed and be happy doing nothing.  We, the victims of the "plugged in society," have lost that ability.  It is sad.

Baby Myra helping Mommy type an email.  

So, last spring, I made the choice to "unplug."  Before you either admire me, pity me, or both, hear me out.  I am not actually "unplugging."  I'm not trying to go into withdrawal here, people.  For the past 6 months or so, since Myra has started being more aware of her surroundings, I have unplugged while she is awake.  

What was my motivation for that?  Well, last spring, I was doing something on the computer and she wanted to sit with me.  I said, "one minute, Mommy is finishing something on the computer."  She looked at me and said, "no computer."  It was then that I realized, "wow, she gets it now and I don't EVER want her to feel like whatever is on my computer or phone is more important than she is."

That, being said, there are obviously calls, texts, and emails that I have to take.  And waiting for those things is a good life lesson for her.  Having to wait, however, for me to scan Facebook or read the news, is not the message that I want to send.  She needs to know that she is more important than anything that Mommy could be looking at on the Internet.

Today though, I realized that my motivation actually goes beyond that.  It is also about what I wrote above.  I don't want her to end up like me, being so addicted to the Internet that she can no longer brush her teeth without her cell phone nearby.  I don't want to see her lose that sweet childhood peacefulness.

Deep down, I know that she will eventually grow up and become like the rest of us, perhaps even worse because she will have technology that we never even dreamed of, but I want to shield her sweet innocence for as long as I possible can.

So, that, my friends, is my motivation for "unplugging."  Do any of you have an addition to technology (don't we all)?  Have any of you chosen to "unplug" while your kids are awake?

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The Motivational Monday Link-Up is a way to share inspirational posts with other blogger friends. Monday can sometimes be a day of the week that we dread, especially after a great weekend, so let's inspire and motivate each other every Monday! So let's go, let's share those posts!

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  1. In a weird way, I feel like I'm plugged in all the time because of Sept 11

  2. I completely agree with that. After that day, the first thing I did every morning for at least a year was turn on CNN because I was paranoid that I would miss something. The weird thing was that I am so old that I turned on the TV instead of looking at my computer. My, how the times have changed!

    Thanks so much for reading and commenting! :)

  3. I need to adopt this motto and try it; especially the weekends. Aaron and I are guilty of being plugged in too much.

  4. Holy crap. Good for you. I think that's such a good idea. i don't know if I could do it. I should though.

  5. I need to unplug way more. My iPad is constantly in my hands. Violet is also pretty savvy with it, which I feel guitly that she knows how to work it. It's so hard modeling the behavior and habits you want your kids to have.

  6. The weekends are tough. Honestly, the best way for me to succeed is to leave the house. It isn't as bad when Josh is awake, but when I wake up with her and we are just sitting here playing, I am seriously itching to use my computer or phone. It is pathetic, but you can only play with puzzles and Little People Princesses for so long. For that reason, we try to get out of the house! It has become easier now that it is routine, but as soon as she goes down for nap, the computer is out for a few hours. Again, totally pathetic.

  7. Myra is my only motivation to do it. As soon as she goes to bed and I finish cleaning up from dinner, doing laundry, etc, my computer is opened up and not closed again until bedtime. It is a serious addition. Pathetic.

  8. I agree! I sometimes feel like I should teach to her to 'do as I say, not as I do.' Getting the internet on my phone was what really put me into a full fledged addiction. It is so hard not to though because there is only so long that you can play with kids toys without getting bored. I know it sounds awful, but it is true!

    As far as V and the iPad, I struggle with that same dilemma with Myra. As much as I want to keep her away from technology, I also realize that it is going to be a huge part of her life so I want her to know how to use it.

    Like all of parenting, it is constant struggle and guilt!

  9. I wrote a post similar to this ... I can't even remember when but I know I wrote it. The sad thing is that I'm not sure if I'm more plugged in now or not? I feel horrible that as of right now I am on the computer writing this instead of spending time with my husband who I haven't hardly seen all day. Now that I'm back to work it's awful because I have two huge tests to study for so I'm either studying, replying to blog emails or sleeping and working during the day. It's tough. It's hard to not plug in daily. But you are right .. Reagan did the same thing that Myra did to you -- no computer. And I get it. They do have to come first when they are awake. I guess hubby just gets to suffer for now! LOL

    Lanaya | xoxo

  10. I think this is great post, Becky! I'm with you about keeping "unplugged" when the kids are around. I do occasionally take calls, texts, and even check weather, etc. but I try not to do so as much as possible. I actually keep my phone in another room most of the time and don't even always bring it with me when out with the whole family (husband will have his anyways) because it is so incredibly distracting! I love what you say about keeping their innocence from technology for as long as possible!

  11. Oh man, I don't even consider unplugging when just Josh is around. A girl can only handle so much! :) Honestly though, he is just as bad. We are so tired by the time that Myra goes to bed that we just sit in front of the TV with our computer. Kind of pathetic.

  12. Thanks so much, Julie! I also try to keep the phone in the other room because it is too easy to play with it if it is with me. Pathetic, but true. It is such a hard situation because I feel like it is "do what I say, not what I do," but I guess it really is that way!


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Becky :)